Series: For The Dreamers....When Nobody Believes You CAN!

By | 7/12/2014 Leave a Comment

Hello Beauties!

If you are anything like me, you're in your mid to late 20's trying to figure out what you want to do with your life. Some of you have kids, some of you don't.  You may have a Degree or 2, a Masters and may be working towards your Doctorate. If you're fortunate enough, you may have everything I've listed yet you still don't know what you want to do with your life.

Many of us get caught up in the dreams others have for us. Our parents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. They are so proud of you! You've done everything expected of you, but it wasn't YOU, you did these things for. I'm writing this because I receive a number of emails with people asking for advice on HOW to follow their dreams. How they are in Law school, etc... and don't want to be, not to become a Makeup Artist, but to follow what ever it is their heart has set out for them to do. First, let me say I'm no life coach, therapist or anything of the sort. I'm just a woman who's set out to live the life she wants to live whether its approved by others or not.

To be honest with you, being a Makeup Artist/Blogger is NOT...

approved by many of my loved ones. This is one of the many challenges I face not only as a Makeup Artist, but as an everyday person. Who doesn't want their life choices to be respected or valued? I'm just hitting 3 years in the beauty business and (to me) I have accomplished so much, yet others don't see it that way. They think I play in makeup all day, that I'm not making any real money, and that there is no way I'll be able to support my family in this line of work. My first post of this series, "For The Dreamers..." could explain why. I could explain it to them, but I'm not going to because one thing I learned on this journey is that.....

You don't owe ANYONE an explanation!

Myleik, founder & CEO at curlBOX posted something on Instagram the other day that falls in line with this post. I quote,
" Parents "can be" no. 1 dream killers...," "As I approached my junior year of college my mom asked what I planned on "doing" after college. I told her I planned on "owning my own company." She said: "Thats your problem, you think TOO BIG! She inserts, {see that? That wasn't MY problem, it was hers. I still love her, but I knew better!}"

Let me just say I admire this woman for many reasons. I am in love with the business of curlBox and the business of Myleik. If I am correct, they are two separate businesses, both amazing. I had the opportunity to visit curlBOX headquarters recently for an event, there was a little small talk between her and I, but I let fear keep me from really introducing myself to her. (Learn from my mistakes. Don't do that. lol)

Yeah, what she said. KNOW Better!

Myleik's response to her mother saying she "thinks too big" was simply that she "knew better". She knew better and kept it pushing. There's no indication of any back and forth, (which is something we don't do in black households anyway) or an explanation. She just went and DID what she said she was going to do. When people you love try to stop you, discourage you or challenge you to think or dream smaller (how is that a challenge?), that is the first sign that you are on to something. 

Why do they discourage us in the first place? They (most loved ones) never set out to hurt us at the end of the day. Maybe because they've never seen anyone do what you've aspired to do, or they've never seen anyone in the "family" do what you've set out to do. Both are great reasons to move forward with your plans to do what no one else had done before. Not for them, but for you! 

Even when you're successful, you won't (always) get the credit/respect you deserve or expect. 

Its important moving forward that you know this. There have been times when I've approached family (& friends) like, "Hey, I've been invited to guest write on!!!" There I was, excited and jumping for joy about this amazing news. Their response, in this very dry...unenthused tone. "Oh, that's nice." Didn't even crack a smile. No congrats....nothing. Know that the very people you set out to prove wrong, no matter how well you do will not be moved by any of your achievements. There will also be those people who actually encourage you to do what you love, but deep down don't really see you succeeding. They too will reveal themselves, while you're delivering your good news. Then suddenly your "cheerleaders" are no more. They are put right in the pile of non-believers.

The good news will speak for its self. What's that saying...."Make less announcements, and more MOVES!" Yes, that's my motto now.

In closing...
When you are done allowing the opinions & plans others have over your life stop you from being who you want to be, you've already won! 

I hope this post helped someone and I hope I got my point across. I leave you with this...

"The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it." -Chinese Proverb

Philippians 4:13

13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies; Thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Until Next time,
<3 Bee


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