Hair Files: Memories of my First BIG Chop...

By | 10/23/2014 Leave a Comment

Hello Beauties!

The other night, Beautiful Textures invited me to Fall in Love with my Hair. I can not lie; one reason I went was to score a goodie bag with some moisture butter (my Favorite BT product) but I ended up taking something else home. Unpleasant memories of my very first big chop. For me...hair has always been just hair. I didn't care if it was short, long, natural or relaxed...it's never been important to me, nor did I ever attach it to my beauty or worth.  I didn't dawn on me until the panel one by one, recalled the day they went natural that maybe it meant a little more to me than I realized. 






Fall of 2008, I had just taken out my micro braids and usually after I take braids/weaves out, I would perm my new growth. On this day, I looked at my hair and saw it for was it was; dry, brittle, and my ends were just....horrible. So instead, I looked in the mirror...grabbed a pair of scissors and cut a HUGE chunk of the top of my head. Front and center, yes I did! Mainly to ensure that I wouldn't change my mind. Outside of my hair looking a hot mess,  I cut it because my heart was broken by my "college sweetheart" and I just wanted to look different...and feel different.


After I cut all my hair off, I felt no regret. I didn't feel ugly or like I did anything crazy...until I stepped foot on my college campus, revealing my new-do to my peers. Walking around campus I received the "OMG! You cut your hair!" & "What made you do that?!" comments. Some inquired with excitement/curiosity, others with underlining judgement and skepticism . Then there were a few...complete jerks. Jerk #1. This guy comes up to me and say's in all seriousness, "Wow! You're not even pretty anymore. Why would you do that to yourself?" Jerk #2 This girl began to clown on me in front of her friends saying I wasn't as cute as they thought and that I can't have short hair and horrendous eyebrows. Jerk #3 just looked at me and laughed....hysterically.

Days after my FIRST Big Chop! 
Boy, I felt like I was back in high school. I can't even front y'all, I went home and cried. Suddenly I became angry with myself. I felt small, and I felt ugly. Around this time it wasn't cool or a trend to go natural. This is when I the natural hair movement was just beginning. So anyone who went natural during this time, I'm sure felt the heat. For the first time ever, I hated my hair and felt I needed it to be pretty again.

This feeling didn't last long! lol I just wanted to share with you that the feeling was once there. Me? Ugly? Neverrrrr OH KAY! LOL & I'm upset I allowed them to make me feel that way even for a half a second. As you can see in the image below, I've changed my hair a lot. I've had locs, combed those out and became a loose natural. Had a baby, my hair fell out forcing me to join the tapered cut family. I transitioned into each style gracefully, and the more I changed my hair, the more I fell in love with it. You mean to tell me, I can Loc it, comb it out and have bra strap, length hair? In its natural state it only looks like I have 2in" of hair, but when I stretch it out it triples in length? WOW! Amazing.


When it comes to hair, especially natural hair we can not compare ourselves to others. In the word of my mentor Nicole Cato, "The comparison game, is a losing game! Be who God made you to be." This applies to many aspects of life, but today we are talking about hair. Don't get frustrated if you watch Naptural85's beach waves tutorial, follow along step by step; only to reveal (in my case) a matted, stiff mess that blew in NOBODY's wind OKAY! (in my ratchet voice)


Don't love your hair right now? Here's how you can begin:








  1. Accept your hair texture for what it is and learn how to manage it.
  2. What works for one, may not necessarily work for you, even if you have the same curl pattern.
  3. Continue to try new products until you come across some that truly work for you. If you buy a product and it doesn't work, bring it back or toss it. Don't just keep using it hoping that on day you're twist outs will turn out different. They won't. 
  4. Read #1 again.
Accepting your hair and its texture will help you more than you know! You will no longer waste time on styles you KNOW doesn't work for your length or texture. I'm no hair guru, but these are the things I've learned. Oh, I have to shout out 4cHairChicks for helping us with kung-fu grip curls learn how to love and manage our hair. 

Yo, my hair looked fly this night! Had to get it together for a natural hair event.


My outfit and Hair of the night. Oh I felt super fly!


 The Panel: right to left
Lexi With the Curls, The Loop Salon, 4cHairChicks, (Myleik) CurlBox, and Beauty Expert Kimberly Walker! 




I can't believe I once let hair and a stupid boy, convince me I was ugly. Now, the thought is unbelievably funny!
I am GORGEOUS! HA!
If I knew then, what I know now... 

Until next time,
<3 Bee




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